Wednesday, May 25, 2016

I see autistic people...

As I have learned more and more about my son's diagnosis and the Autism spectrum, I have slowly transformed into a clinical psychologist.
That guy who cut me off in traffic?  Emotional regulation issues.
That co-worker who can't seem to finish a project?  Attention deficit brought on by depression.
The guy who never wants to meet for a drink when someone else is coming with me?  Social phobia.

And I see Autism everywhere.

I see it in me, my wife, my sister, my parents.  I see little pieces of a puzzle that - when put together just right - form pretty much what we see in T.

The anxiety.  The anger.  The low frustration tolerance.  The desire to keep everything the same, even when it's bad.  The near narcissistic ability to bring every conversation back to being about yourself.

Even though the diagnosis is about 4 years old now, it's still new and I'm hypersensitive.  But as they say, "Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean someone's not out to get you."  I'm not going to ignore these little insights.  I'm going to address them using the same techniques we're learning related to dealing with T's aspieness.

And that includes getting help for my own issues. (See that?  Turned it right back to me again, didn't I?)